Thursday, March 21, 2013

On Again, Off Again... our roller coaster relationship with the Church

So the church portion of our wedding planning has seriously been tumultuous to say the VERY least. Clearly it's the most important part of the whole day, ya know, since without it, we wouldn't be celebrating a damn thing.

Just when we thought we had it all nailed down, the Catholic Church went and changed the rules on us! Apparently there have been some Canon Law revisions that make it super difficult for a Catholic priest to bless a wedding in a non-Catholic church. I am not so sure how much truth there is to this and if there are any scholars out there that could please explain it to me, I'd be more than happy to listen.

The bottom line is, this change has forced us to re-evaluate where we get married. (Sidebar, our family friend who is a priest is the pastor at a BEAUTIFUL old cathedral in Philadelphia where we may now be getting married. He was originally maybe not going to be available, but turns out, he is and we are so excited about that part.) He is more than happy to have Jay's friend who is a Rector in the Episcopal church partake in the ceremony and bless the marriage as well, GREAT NEWS!! The not-so-great part is that the church is kind of far from the reception and this will require a lot more traveling for our guests. The other part that is not so great is that we now have to remake decisions that were difficult to agree on the first time and not getting any easier. AND now I will have to switch parishes so that we aren't trying to make moves and include 3 priests. PLUS pre-Cana for both faiths.

Sometimes, wedding planning makes my head spin... at least the Church is still really pretty and at the end of the day, we will be married. I just have to keep my eye on what's important :)